I am terribly sorry for your loss, it’s always difficult losing someone who means so much to you.
People handle grief in a lot of different ways, some just push it in the backs of their minds and move on, others go to support groups, make shrines, while some just need to take time wallow for a while.
Grieving is extremely important, don’t feel like you should be over this by now and don’t feel bad for your grief. Grief is an important factor in getting better, we all grieve at different rates, it’s important to know that you can take as much time as you need.
You may end up trying a couple things and see what makes you feel better, talk to someone about it, make a scrapbook as a way to present closure, some people find that getting another companion helps as well. What you choose to do is up to you.
Try your best to remember that she lived a good life, you gave her the happiest life possible and there is nothing more she could have asked for. You’ve done everything you can for her and know that when she left, she was happy with the life she lived.
Right now what’s important is that you take care of yourself, take the time to release this pain, your mental health is important. Try to find things you enjoy, maybe you can find a hobby to pass the time, find new interests and enjoy life as it is.
It’s tough and these things take time, I hope you find peace and happiness in your near future.
There are a lot of support groups for grieving pet parents as well. Check your local shelters and enthusiast clubs for them.
Someone asked me if I potty trained Athena due to the pictures where she’s out in the house, and if so how. Here’s basically my reply since a lot of you probably want answers too.
I’ve gotten used to her little cues, so when she starts doing a little shimmy I put her over some paper or a bathroom sink. Though there are still lots of messes! When she’s on her cage or her ceiling mounted perch, there are papers underneath. She of course also makes messes in other ways, through everything from normal shedding to throwing her food and toys around, and for that I have a hand vac that goes on the wood floor and the furniture. An electric kettle is a miracle as well for when she poops in her bowls. Toss out what’s in it and let them sit in the bathroom sink with the hot water.
Young birds have MUCH more watery poops than older birds, so be warned. And if they eat a lot of some foods, they’ll have loose poops as well. As much as Athena loves apples, I have to limit her intake.
Oh yeah! Invest in some antibacterial cleaning wipes. I know that people are cautioned against using them too much, but using them for bird poops is reasonable. There’s also a great spray called Poop-Off and it works for a variety of substances (it’s how government maintenance people clean pigeon crap off of monuments!) I don’t think there are any off brands, but if you see any, try them to see what works best for you.
Subscribe to the local paper. They’ll love you for it even if you tell them exactly where it’s going. If you don’t want to support them for political reasons or whatever, ask a newsstand or supermarket or someone who carries the paper daily if you can have the unsold ones. Supermarket ads also work, and you can usually ask to have some at the end of the ad week (if that’s the route you go, you’ll need a LOT). Take out any staples too—not only are they recyclable when the rest of the paper won’t be when your bird gets through with it, birds could also ingest them.
I hope that helps everyone!